I've wondered lately - when does one grow up and become "mature". What do we mean by mature anyway? There seem to be large cluster of necessary attributes for maturity and wisdom- large, vague and sometimes self contradictory.
Its a bit disconcerting to realise, that as the years roll by, although you can see the change in yourself, you can't always assume more 'maturity'. Its a realisation borne out not only by your own experiances, but additionally reinforced by the people much older than you. Nah, they don't seem to be a great deal wiser than some of the youngsters around.
So does older and wiser always hold up? I don't think so anymore. Yes there are some attributes typically associated with youth, and some with age. And yes there are some things we learn with age, but those changes are mostly due to the experiances life doles out to you, and perhaps a few due to the body and mind slowing down.
I think one of the most defining moments was when I realised how stubborn we get , and how set in our ways, as we grow older. Its a strange stubbornness, quite unlike a child's. For a while I thought, it was just me. Then I looked around and saw, that the worst offenders were the 50-60 years olds. And then I began to see other tell tale signs, growing in me, and well established in people much older - signs which seem the opposite of maturity.
Yes, some people seem very reasonable and mature ( again by the wierdly vague standards) but I think thats usually more to do with their temperament to begin with, and very little to do with age. And then of course, we all do have small pockets of intelligence, which perhaps we manage to hold on to.
But all in all, rather depressing to think that as we log in the years, no magical wisdom and maturity will come on a silver platter. Chances are the downslide will begin, and we'd actually need to work harder to fight it!