Thursday, August 20, 2009


I need to get there...

Sunday, August 16, 2009

Public Enemies

Rather a forgettable movie. Even Johnni Depp can't do much for it.

Usual story , man wanted by the law for robbing banks ( and yes lots of shooting ) . The effort to make a hero out of him. The effort to give him "qualities" ( he'll not let anyone down, he'll not do kidnappings) bla bla. The usual love interest. The usual sad end in blood.

Nothing new , nothing newly done, and all in all not worth spending money on, the tv viewing is all it deserves.

Saturday, August 15, 2009

Etudes - Aseem Kaul

Had finished this few weeks back. A mixed bunch of short stories ( or etudes if you'd like) Some were absolutely lovely, and some just a tad above my intellectual level!

I remember reading some of them on the blog , and wondering how such amazing stuff could be up there for free. I remember thinking, I'd pay money to read some of these.

There's little happening in terms of "story" or action in most the them, they're like a painting. You gaze at it, and it grows on you. Lets hope there are a few more of them coming!

Friday, August 14, 2009

The filial guilt trip- My rant to all you parents of grown ups.

So some stupid hindi serial ( ok i know thats unnecessary) , some hindi serial keeps getting advertised lately about kids mistreating their parents.

And here's the rant thats been simmering for the past few years where this issue is concerned. For all those parents crying about their kids abandoning/mistreating them , here's my answer - its your own fault. Lets me repeat that again, its your own fault and you have it coming.

Its your own fault that you put old age planning much behind that urge to "do the best for your child"

Its your own fault that you started out your life with "i'm living and doing everything for my kid".

Its your own fault that you expected that you could life off your kids in their prime, giving them unnecessary and irritating gyan on how to live their lives.

You know what, you had your chance while they were growing up, to give them all the gyan you needed. That was the time to do all your reminescing about how to do things, how to manage money, how to massage babies, how to plan for the future ( hah) , how to choose a lifemate, how to plan on buying a house.. you know, all of those how-tos, which you keep wishing to share when the kids are in their 30s, while wishing to sit on their heads. You should have done that, but you didn't, hoping to keep them dependent on you.

Ideally what you should have done was bring them up, drilling into their heads in no uncertain terms, that once their studies are over, they are on their own. Yes hopefully both would be around for each in emergencies, but only in emergencies. The parents money is not only their own, it would most certainly not go the children. It would go to their old age home, their favourite charity, or maybe their favourite temple ( ugh! but hey its their money) or wherever they damn well please, but not to the kids.
And rest assured that the kids would not be taking care of them and paying for them.

I know that sounds cruel and idealistic, but hey in the absence of that, whats happening now, is normal, and please don't wring your hands and make idiotic serials and movies like Baghban.

And while on Baghban, let me repeat what i said earlier, the caricatures of people aside, my sympathies are all with kids and i sure wish amitabh and hema had saved something for old age, instead of bringing up the kids with "everything they desire" and handing everything to them. If you'll do that, rest assured the kids would treat you as free baby sitters and nurses.

If you sow the wind, you'll reap the whirlwind. Stop whining.

Thursday, August 13, 2009

The art of Indirect communication

Thats an art i don't have, and no being frank and speaking straight is not an asset. Its a big big big disadvantage.

Saying "I don't know, and I'm sorry I don't have the time to find out" is not right. Yes there's a right answer to it, I just don't know it.

Saying "I'm not going to do this bullshit, simply because someone else is idling and not doing it" is not right. Yes, once again, there is a right answer to it, a right way to tackle it, and I don't know that either.

Saying "this is not a fair price, I'll pay x ", isnt a smart way of bargaining either. And yes, you guessed it , I sure as hell don't know the right way to go about it.

This is something I've been thinking of a lot lately. Things that happen at work, at home, when you're out shopping, or just trying to negotiate with life. I've always had a tendency to say straight out what i'm thinking, and somewhere along the way , lost the art of ungali tedhi kar ke ghee nikalna. And I also realise that it costs me. I pick more quarrels where I'm left looking like the offending party, when I could have answered obliquely and got back my own. I end up complaining and nagging about things which I can't seem to change, which I could perhaps have manipulated better and got better results. And needless to say, I end up being almost unable to bargain, since thats one area where this skill is put fully to use.

Anyone know of any diploma courses I could take in this?? !